Cherie Healey, founder of The Luminaries, and Dan Doty, co-founder of EVRYMAN.
The Reunion: “we're all craving deeper connection and trust. Men have been afraid of women, women are angry at men and deep down we miss each other. Come for an experiential night to listen to each other. Learn how to have the conversations we're all dying to have. We've been tiptoe'ing long enough and Dan is here to give us the skills to become each other's safe place and build more compassionate relationships at home and at work.”
The room was packed with 50 people. And surprisingly more than half of the participants were men!
This was an opportunity for both women and men to teach and learn from each other.
Dan taught the same tools we use in our EVRYMAN groups and retreats, slow down, open up, and connect. And Cherie taught the group how to create a safe space to build more compassionate relationships at home and work.
There is a palpable feeling when the room is completely still. I could almost feel the heart beat of the person next to me. There was laughter that shook the streets of San Francisco. And moments that made me weep.
There were also a few moments of discomfort for me, like when a woman called out a man for speaking another person’s personal story without that person’s consent.
These are the hard and uncomfortable conversations we need to have with one another. I know in my heart that when we start to dive into these conversations and increase communication between ALL people, we will all flourish and heal. And when we can slow down, open up, and listen, we are building the leader within us.
So, what would the world look like if we all just slowed down, opened up, and listened?
I see a world where everyone feels safe. I see people leading with curiosity instead of accusations and blame. And see more compassion and self-compassion.
My takeaways from the workshop:
Everyone deserves to be listened to.
Both men and women are more courageous when they are vulnerable and open.
What women want for men is what men want for women.
There are men who feel intimidated by women.
There are women who feel intimidated by men.
More and more men are feeling the benefits of being vulnerable. They feel it in their personal growth, relationships, and work.
There were women who thought vulnerability was sexy.
We are unshakable when we can have hard conversations in our relationships.
The Unshakable Man is a proud supporter of EVRYMAN. Both Chris and I are members of an EVRYMAN group here in San Francisco and Oakland. And we’ve both had seen major shifts in our lives because of this work.
Head to EVRYMAN’s website to learn more about groups and retreats.