Emotional processing is the ability to experience stress, feelings or emotions from an event and move past them. As men's coaches we often work with men's coaching clients who hold roles where they must perform while also taking care of themselves.
When we are unable to process emotions in a constructive way, they develop stories, phobias or even other mental issues. Processing emotions allows our experience of those emotions to dissipate over time reducing stress and anxiety and increasing mental clarity.
Performance processing is a type of emotional processing strategy used in situations where ones ability to carry out, accomplish or fulfill an important task is at stake. It is an emotional management strategy often used when peak performance is necessary in a competitive, professional or entrepreneurial environment.
In order to take care of the whole person performance processing must be used in combination with personal processing. This creates a combinatory affect or boundary where the person is both able to focus and maintain performance in one environment and process the entirety of the experience in another environment.
The three stages of performance processing are to:
Acknowledge what occurred and how it made you feel in the moment so as to not hide from it or forget what happened. We refer to this as creating a personal processing container or a container of personal safety. Then.
Responsibility - Make a choice to transition to a performance processing mindset where you bring your awareness to the context of what occurred with less story and you look for your responsibility in it. I am responsible for x and y.
Action - And finally you set a time and place to come back to what occurred for personal processing allowing you to take clear and deliberate action focusing on a next step.
Using a combination of "personal processing" and "performance processing" together can have an additional positive affect on a persons ability to roll through challenges and setbacks.
The focus on deliberate action + the creation of a psychic boundary between the field of play and home base (ex: separation between work & home) allow the individual to see positive physical progress in their life or work while also having a container of complete personal safety outside of the arena where they need to perform.
If you want to put this into action here is our primary takeaway.
Create a two part process system in your life and work by creating a boundary between your personal space and the space where you must perform. Then create opportunities to process difficult emotions and achknowledge your full emotional spectrum outside of the environment where you must maintain performance environment. notice when youin order to perform better in your life, work or relationships. This is a great example of using boundaries and intentionally creating space to take care of yourself, your relationships and to achieve your goals.